What happens in therapy?
In psychotherapy there will be an initial exploratory session where I try to find out why you are looking for help at this particular time. We spend a few sessions getting to know each other, getting to understand your life history and the issues we are dealing with. We will generally meet once a week in my office, which is private and comfortable, and we will talk about issues as they arise. I may give direction if we agree that is required. I use my knowledge and training in psychological theory to work out what the problem is and how best to treat it. We will identify your desired changes. Treatment progresses according to your own comfort level. You can usually expect some change within around six to eight sessions depending on the issues you bring and the depth of the problem.
Psychotherapy helps to make old patterns redundant.
Sometimes negative thinking can sabotage your intentions. It’s as if you fall into the old self-destructive or depressive patterns. In psychotherapy, as you work through past experiences, you can get rid of negative feelings such as guilt, powerlessness or shame. When you start to explore patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving, it becomes clear that many of your decisions about how to live and how to be are made early on in life. It’s as if, first you write the script, then you live it out.
In therapy you work out how you might be stopping yourself from being happy. As you gain insight into the workings, the mechanisms of you, you become aware of stuck parts, feelings and needs, and find that it is possible to change them. Instead of you being controlled by them, you take control.